Explore
What exactly are your child’s eating difficulties? Are there difficulties with the amount of food or the range of foods or both? Are these long standing difficulties or more recent? Is your child having any additional Supplements; if so how much, via what method and when is this given? Are the difficulties experienced across all environments; school, home, friends, relatives, restaurants?
Understand
What are the main drivers for avoidance and restrictive patterns of eating? Low interest in food? Sensory sensitivities? Concern about adverse consequences? Why might these be present; disrupted appetite; low desire to eat due to mood, stress, concentration, over arousal? Is restriction a side effect of medication? Are any concurrent illness or conditions affecting avoidance or restrictive eating such as oral-motor difficulties? Is your child a supertaster? Are their feelings of disgust or anxiety related to past negative experiences or worries picked up from others? Other difficulties such as ADHD, ASD, Intellectual Disabilities, family with restrictive eating difficulties?
Accept
Accepting this is how things are at present. Accepting it is okay to worry and it is likely your child’s eating is a result of normal fear related responses. Understanding and accepting why your child might be responding this way at present. Understanding that this does not have to be how things will be for ever but change can be a slow process.
Challenge
Identify what needs to change and whether there is real potential for change? What needs exploring first? How might this be achieved? What are the current consequences of eat difficulties and how might this affect what is changed first?
Change
To start making changes following this 5 step model sequence. Keep a record of changes, things that you try, what works and what doesn't. Appreciate the small changes and realistic about your expectations. Be as clear and consistent as you can minimising confrontation as much as possible.